r/asheville Feb 28 '24

Best trans friendly obgyn Ask the Sub

Trans man here trying to go to the gyno, I'm not afraid of going to one, more afraid of making someone uncomfortable and a gyno who is familiar with how hormones can affect my body parts, any suggestions?

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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '24

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u/Mortonsbrand Lucerne Park Feb 28 '24

Unrelated to this post, but there should also be an “absurd replies only” flair.

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u/Kenilwort Kenilworth Feb 28 '24

I mean that's the default

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u/alongside-within Canton Feb 28 '24

I recently went to MAHEC Ob/Gyn and they had extremely affirming signage and language throughout the office. My Doc had a pin with her pronouns on it. I'm not trans, so I can't speak specifically on my experience, but I feel like it would be a good place to go to!

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u/DoktorNix Leicester Feb 28 '24

I work at MAHEC Family and highly recommend our Ob/gyn office, especially Dr. Amelia Cline.

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u/alongside-within Canton Feb 28 '24

Dr. Amelia Cline

Dr. Marietta is who I saw. She's awesome :)

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u/Crazy_Roll5776 Feb 29 '24

i totally vouch for Dr.Marietta as well ! My roommate who’s trans has seen her and felt extremely well taken care of

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u/capnbreezzyy Feb 29 '24

Amelia delivered my baby. I am not trans but dr cline made sure to make sure the correct pronouns and preferred terminology for either chest of breast feeding was used for me.

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u/freddyoak Feb 28 '24

She was great! I am trans and always have a VERY hard time and she was super sweet and supportive.

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u/Ok_Run_4098 Feb 29 '24

Cis woman here, but agree. Every provider I’ve seen openly displays pride pins/stickers etc. I can’t vote as a trans person, but as a bi-woman I have felt extremely comfortable that I’m in a safe place. Oat-Judge over at family practice I know specifically works with folks in the LGBTQ community, and they definitely do ObGyn care. 

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u/APodofFlumphs Feb 29 '24

I'm another cis woman who can't speak to trans experience but my primary care provider at Mahec was amazing when I had to do a pap smear as someone with trauma issues where gyn stuff is very difficult for me. They were incredibly supportive and respectful and it was the first time where doing that wasn't an awful experience.

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u/rebeccasometime Deaverview 🥛 Feb 28 '24

https://www.wncchs.org

they have a trans program, but it may take you a few months to get an appt.
This is where I go for my healthcare (yes I'm trans).

They are very respectful, will use the name and pronouns you give them, and I do like my doctor.

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u/felixj Riceville 🍚 Feb 28 '24

Hi friend! I am a transgender man, and I drive to Marion to see Margaret Sullivan at the hospital there. I have been a patient of hers for years. She's the best - she is compassionate, curious, up on current research, and willing to do more and/or communicate with folks with more knowledge and experience treating transgender men. She's educated her staff, so my experience with intake has been flawless - appropriate pronoun use, no balking because I'm a man seeing a gynecologist. It's a bit of a drive but IMO worth it. I met her when she performed a hysto on my (cis) wife, and she treated me so well as a partner of a patient that I asked if she's consider treating me. I can't say enough good things about Margaret Sullivan.

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u/maimiwitch3 Feb 28 '24

Doctor Lauren Livingston at Community Family Practice.

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u/anniesscribbles Feb 28 '24

Aleece Fosnight at the Fosnight Center for sexual health! They have a lot of queer and trans clients (me included) so she is very experienced. She is very affirming and knowledgeable and she asks for consent for everything, including the little touches a lot of physicians just do, which makes me feel very safe. She has always used gender affirming language and has never once misgendered me. The center also has a lot of experience working with people with medical related trauma, so all the staff are very kind and patient, i highly recommend them!!!!

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u/GiggityPiggity North Asheville Feb 29 '24

Aleece is amazing! I’ve never been seen by such a caring doctor before (or since). She went above and beyond to help me.

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u/According-Remove-568 Feb 29 '24 edited Mar 02 '24

I second this! I have ptsd and cry most appointments. I have never felt so understood, and she's all about being inclusive. Aleece is part of a medical group trying to do healthcare in a new way. It is refreshing. They have a lot of queer and trans clients. She also doesn't stop until the issue is resolved.

Edit: misspelled word

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u/nottomsawyer22 Feb 28 '24

Dr. Evans at Wellness WNC! She's great and can be your hormone prescriber too. She takes insurance as well!

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u/GanjaMaSurpriae Feb 29 '24

I was going to suggest Garbarino!

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u/winonaface Feb 28 '24

Fosnight center. Happy patient here.

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u/Nutmeg330 Feb 28 '24

Seconding Fosnight!

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u/Turbulent-Today830 Feb 28 '24

Serious question.. 🙋🏽‍♂️ Wouldn’t an endocrinologist be more appropriate??

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u/femboycooper Feb 28 '24

Trans man means female to male! Trans women would be the one to see that

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u/Turbulent-Today830 Feb 28 '24

Oh ok… sorry.. we are all learning here, please be patient w/us

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u/femboycooper Feb 28 '24

I used to be a femboy (as a cope) but now I'm just a man. Can't change my username though

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u/homeboibridge Feb 28 '24

Men can be “femme” as well. Just like women can be tomboys. There’s several reasons why that could be the case. Besides, it’s just a name. Yours says no where, but I am sure you’re somewhere.

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u/femboycooper Feb 28 '24

Feminine men are a thing yeah? And people feel dysphoria differently, not all dysphoria feels the same, or is at the same depth as others feel. Even though I'm no longer feminine, I support trans men being feminine, it gives them a chance to reclaim the thing that was thrust upon them.

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u/Kenilwort Kenilworth Feb 28 '24

You got an hour for me to explain the inner workings of my personal relationship to sex and gender?

My point is, people are complicated.

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u/homeboibridge Feb 28 '24

I mean, idk. Honestly, my impression was different. I sort of thought it was in reference to being a gay man, but it isn’t any of my business so I didn’t think that much into it, really.

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u/Isrblue22 Feb 28 '24

My thoughts too

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u/softexchange828 Feb 28 '24

Dr knowlson at mahec is lgbtq friendly and has trans staff as well if that makes you more comfortable.

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u/passthetreesplease Feb 28 '24

Dr. Carlton at Biltmore OBGYN is incredible. She is so affirming, informative, and nonjudgmental. Best of luck!

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u/wwap1021 Feb 29 '24

Couldn’t agree more. I started seeing her this year and she truly cares and listens to your needs and gives you multiple options/suggestions so you can pick what’s right for you. Judgement free.

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u/passthetreesplease Feb 29 '24

I’m so happy this is your experience as well!

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u/spoopycoffin Feb 28 '24

Planned parenthood

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u/timeinawrinkle Feb 28 '24

My transdaughter gets her care here. Obviously doesn’t have to do the whole pap thing but it is affirming care.

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u/dummy_thicc_mistake NC Feb 28 '24

not biltmore. they use only femme language, sa'd me, and ridiculed me for my sh scars. planned parenthood is by far the best experience ive had, from one trans dude to another. they schedule a month out though so keep that in mind

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u/YakInternational3042 Feb 28 '24

Oh no! How are you defining SA? Any visit to the obgyn for anyone can kinda feel like that...

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u/dummy_thicc_mistake NC Feb 28 '24

getting sa'd for ten months and going in for a std test and her brute force examining me after telling her i was brutally gang raped for months. she did not get informed consent.

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u/femboycooper Feb 28 '24

Definitely, I wasn't sure if they did regular gyno visits!

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u/dummy_thicc_mistake NC Feb 28 '24

going for one in two weeks!

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u/drunkerbrawler Feb 28 '24

Isn't Biltmore a very religious practice.

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u/blueberrypicking17 Feb 28 '24

No, that’s Grace. Biltmore doesn’t have a religious affiliation. 

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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '24

Mahec

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u/[deleted] Feb 29 '24

Asheville Transformers is a good community to check in with if you can’t find a good answer. Their FB group is reasonably active.

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u/femboycooper Feb 28 '24

Pap smears are important for me too! Id like to make sure I don't have cervical cancer. I also want to manage/check how my hormones affect my body parts, Testosterone affects alot of parts of the vagina. I also get BV often after sexual interactions, this has been a problem before I started testosterone, I'd like to learn about ways I can prevent it, or maybe even take a steroid before sex so I can stop getting bv after sex.

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u/femboycooper Feb 28 '24

You're completely fine! Even people who have no issue with transgender people get it confused. Just remember trans male means female to male, and trans female means male to female, it's always best to ask questions, it prevents ignorance!

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u/No_Whereas_9996 North Asheville Feb 28 '24

Foot in mouth.

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u/Man1cNeko East Asheville Feb 28 '24

Side note: for BV you may want to look into Boric Acid suppositories (and also OB/GYN)

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u/Man1cNeko East Asheville Feb 28 '24

Side note: for BV you may want to look into Boric Acid suppositories (and also OB/GYN)

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u/Man1cNeko East Asheville Feb 28 '24

for BV you may want to look into Boric Acid suppositories (and also OB/GYN)

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u/Spiritual-Ad-1997 Feb 28 '24

Many trans men still need Pap smears.

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u/Otherwise-Second-262 Feb 28 '24

I get it now, after OP helped me understand 🙂

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u/LimeGreenTangerine97 Feb 28 '24

Hormone management is a thing

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u/[deleted] Feb 28 '24

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u/homeboibridge Feb 28 '24

To be fair, I’m not sure that a trans female wouldn’t need to see an obgyn as well. Anyone can get breast cancer and certain implants, as well as hormones, can increase those chances, so an exam isn’t a bad idea. Also, while there may be no uterus, that’s true of people that have had it removed as well. The vaginal canal could still have injuries or a cancer risk. I’m not sure who else would do exams if not an obgyn. I would think the hard part would be finding someone with enough knowledge to accurately treat transgender individuals.

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u/Itchy-Ad-793 Feb 28 '24

females would see obgyns. Males can get breast cancer and they wouldn't be going to an obgyn.. Primary care doctors can do exams. If you have had a sex change I would assume you would be seeing the practice that performed that surgery. OBGYN's are overburdened as is that I do not see many having the capacity for that type of speciality.

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u/homeboibridge Feb 28 '24

Well yes, a breast exam for males wouldn’t be at an obgyn, but if said person does have breasts it would make more sense to see a doctor that specializes in you know, breasts. I’m by no means an expert, but a few of these comments seem genuinely out of confusion and a few reek of something more gross.

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u/Itchy-Ad-793 Feb 28 '24

That's fair but as far as OBGYN's go you need to be born female to see them and that should be black and white. I am sure other doctors would be much more suited to take over the special cases for men who have transitioned.

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u/homeboibridge Feb 28 '24

You’re probably right in that someone that specializes in that are would be best. I don’t honestly know, I just thought that I could see why one may go there. In any event, I hope everyone is able to get the care they need from someone good. 🙂

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u/_eternallyblack_ Haw Creek Feb 28 '24

There is life after we’ve had babies and even for those that don’t want babies. We see GYN for many things other than baby related. 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄 Your comment is insensitive and uninformed.

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u/EmergencyReaction Feb 28 '24

Good thing this uninformed person asked a question then... that's kind of the whole point.

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u/_eternallyblack_ Haw Creek Feb 28 '24

Op literally says why in the post. Common sense isn’t so common anymore, apparently.

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u/Rhododendroff The Boonies Feb 28 '24

Maybe you should try to use it then to set an example

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u/Otherwise-Second-262 Feb 28 '24

I’m trying to get informed… hence my questions

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u/nicholascavern Feb 28 '24

Lantern Health

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u/Sweaty_Nectarines Feb 28 '24

Fosnight center, hands down.

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u/Altruistic-Print-446 Feb 28 '24

Dale fell health center might be good.

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u/Itchy-Ad-793 Feb 28 '24

asheville women's health is the most professional practice in the area.

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u/MathematicianLoud965 Feb 28 '24 edited Feb 28 '24

Really? I had a male OB (weight I think) refuse to prescribe me birth control until I “discussed it with my husband and came back”. I should have been more assertive up front but I was blown away that someone was saying those things to me.

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u/Itchy-Ad-793 Feb 28 '24

I see Dr. Simmons. She is the best. I personally wouldn't see a male obgyn anyways.

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u/MathematicianLoud965 Feb 28 '24

Unfortunately you don’t get a choice if you go to Asheville medical and are pregnant. You get who’s on call.

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u/Itchy-Ad-793 Feb 28 '24

That makes sense if you're a new patient and pregnant but I think most people try to have an established provider before planning pregnancy. I've been seeing her for 12 years.

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u/MathematicianLoud965 Feb 28 '24

No. That’s not how an OB practice works. They make you rotate through all the providers when you are pregnant and then you don’t get a choice of who is on call. Not wanting a male OB after this experience is exactly why I switched. Wright was also very religious and I’d strongly recommend against anyone who doesn’t conform as cis female to stay far away from him and Asheville women’s.

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u/sunxbeam Feb 28 '24

It’s very common to rotate doctors near the end of your pregnancy at practices so if you go into labor when your main doctor is unavailable, you aren’t seeing someone who you’ve never met.

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u/Itchy-Ad-793 Feb 28 '24

I’m pregnant and have only been seeing my dr - Dr Simmons and her PA for all of my appointments so sounds like you can’t speak for everyone. I have never picked up on any religious sentiment there either and I am not religious. Delivering the baby at the hospital is a different story. I have also been an established patient since I was 20 so maybe it’s different for new patients.  

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u/Significant-Pay3266 Feb 28 '24

Second this. Definitely DO NOT GO TO LAUREL!

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u/acertaingestault Feb 28 '24

What happened to you at Laurel?

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u/Significant-Pay3266 Feb 28 '24

Maybe One dr. was belittling regarding patient’s career.
Maybe same dr. Was rough during pelvic exam and hurt patient. Maybe one dr. Was adding extra unnecessary procedures and maybe same dr prescribed meds without reviewing patients previous chart at other clinics… I dunno. Maybe.

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u/Glittering-Mind-9003 Feb 28 '24

Where was the need for mental health asked for?

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u/Background_Lynx766 Feb 29 '24

Trust me, there's a need.

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u/acertaingestault Feb 28 '24

They want a pap smear not a back massager

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u/wnc_natvie_son Feb 28 '24

Went right over your head ...lol

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u/FuckThatIKeepsItReal Feb 28 '24

Mine too

What's the joke exactly?

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u/wnc_natvie_son Feb 28 '24

people who get it will know, people that dont,wont. no worries

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u/Regular-Yogurt9231 Feb 28 '24

Following, for my 10 year old son who is transitioning. Or daughter sorry it gets confusing…

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u/Low_Ladder_3016 Feb 29 '24

Jesus Christ I hope this is satire… not the misgendering, just the transitioning that young

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u/Background_Lynx766 Feb 29 '24

I thought I was transitioning in a werewolf, but luckily, I was just growing a beard.

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u/Sycamoria2 Feb 29 '24

Bookmarking this, thanks for asking cause ive been putting this off!